If you are following these 12 life assessments, how did you do with the previous area over the last month? Hopefully, you began examining your beliefs. I didn’t hear from any of you, but trust that it was helpful. Now let’s move on to the next one.
The problem areas having to do with one’s past are many. Not taking responsibility for your life consists of lots of things, including making excuses or justifying attitudes and behaviors. For some people religion has become a crutch. They do a lot of praying and reading the Bible but don’t do the necessary things to bring about change in their lives and circumstances. There is a tolerance for sin. The things they do that are wrong perhaps are seen as no big deal. Some people may not want to change badly enough. Others allow generational curses to continue. These are wrong habits, addictions, wrong patterns of behavior, or wrong thinking passed along from one generation to the next. Added to all of these things there could be a lack of forgiveness which has led to bitterness. Other things present in a person’s past could be depression, anger, low self-esteem, and emotional and relational issues.
Building Block Number 2 is that you must deal with and dump your negative past. You must deal with any unresolved hurts from your past. This includes all school, home, and church upbringing. There may be a lot to sift through here. Take time to work through these questions:
SCHOOL: How did you feel about yourself after getting out of high school? Did you have low self-esteem? Were you bullied in school? Did any teachers ever attach negative labels on you like “you will never amount to anything?” Did anyone ever make fun of your body? Were you excluded from associating with certain groups of people?
HOME: Have you ever found yourself expressing anger in destructive ways? Did you have a lot of conflicts with people at home? Were you ever physically abused? Was there yelling and fighting? Did your mom or dad not show up for important events in your life?
CHURCH: Did your mom or dad make you go to church? Did you have positive or negative experiences at church? Were you involved in an exciting and relevant youth ministry?
Now, on to other stuff. Generational curses must be identified and broken. If you have an anger problem, take a class in anger management or learn biblical principles in dealing with anger. Emotional and relational issues may require Christian counseling. You must do whatever is necessary to clean out the emotional damage of your past if you want to step into the best future that God has for you.
Foundational scripture passages:
Philippians 3:13-14; Isaiah 43:18-19, 55:6-9; Romans 8:1; Ephesians 4:20-27, 31-32
1. Can you name several ways your negative past might be impacting your present? What needs to be done to change that?
2. How will you go about reversing any generational curses?
3. What areas do you struggle in the most, your marriage, anger, low self-esteem, depression, or something else that comes to mind?
4. Which of the following do you think would be the most beneficial to you in dealing with your past? Counseling, small support groups, mentoring, other?
Okay, that is plenty to chew on this next month. Talk to you later when I present the third life assessment area during the last week of March. In the meantime I look forward to your comments. John