If you have been following my blogs on life assessment for the past 2 months, I hope they have been helpful. If you are tuning in for the first time and need to get up to speed on what is going on here, scroll down to the first life assessment or introduction to life assessment.
To help a lay a firm foundation for getting life right you must apply life assessment number 3:
Problem areas in forgiveness are:
- You don’t feel like forgiving someone.
- You may feel that the other person doesn’t deserve to be forgiven.
- When the other person takes responsibility and owns up to their actions or attitudes then you will forgive them.
- People often fail to realize that forgiveness is for the benefit of the one offended, not for the one giving the offense.
Building block number 3 for laying a good foundation for life is understanding true forgiveness and practicing it daily. It is important to understand that forgiveness is for the benefit of the one offended, so that bitterness does not take root in your life. Forgiveness is not based on feelings but rather on a willful decision. It means not treating the other person like he or she has treated you and extending them grace. We must have the same grace toward others as God has toward us. You may not always be able to forget, but you still need to forgive. However, forgiveness does not mean that you need to continue to have a relationship with someone, either. Sometimes, even though you have forgiven someone, it may be necessary to cut off all ties with them, for your happiness or safety.
The following Bible passages talk about forgiveness: Matthew 6:14; I John 1:9, 2:12; Ephesians 4:26-27, 31-32; Psalm 32:3-5, 103:8-14; Colossians 1:13-14, 3:13; Romans 8:1; and Isaiah 1:18. If you have a problem with forgiving others, I would suggest that you write these verses on 3 by 5 cards and read them over many times during this next month.
- Do you find it difficult to forgive others? Why do you think that is?
- Is there an area of your life or a relationship that is not progressing in a positive way because you are unwilling to forgive?
- Is there any lack of forgiveness that you are holding on to right now?
- Plan steps to forgive someone, if necessary. Are you going to write a note, call them up, or meet with them personally? Or maybe you would rather just forgive them in your heart and not tell them, if that is more comfortable for you.
- Ask God to make you sensitive to the need to forgive another person if the situation arises. This is a lot to absorb and practice this next month. I hope it is helpful to you. I would love to know how God is working in your life by practicing these life assessment areas. Check out my other articles. Talk to you in another month, or maybe earlier if you send me a comment. John